While watching this fabulous episode from season one, I am sad to say that this one hit kinda close to home.
After a few weeks of being with Mr Bigg, Carrie had gotten to a point in her relationship with Bigg of EXTREME comfort, yes, she farted…THE HORROR.
And as you know women aren’t supposed to do that. And since then, let’s just say the sexy had left the bedroom. And although She had decided to get over it, him put the whoopee cushion in her chair it didn’t help things any.
So when she wanted to make “Whoopee” later that night, he quickly rebuffed her advances, and when they then stopped having sex altogether, she wondered if showing him that she was indeed “Human” a mistake.
Meanwhile, Upon her daily constitutional with Miranda she told her of her problem, Miranda told her that she hadn’t had sex in 3 months. And In this particular episode EVEN Samantha was abstaining, and if you’ve seen the show at all, you know how AMAZING that is….
Upon further examination of my own bedroom activities I realized that I haven’t had sex since 2009.
Ok, it’s May so I am being a little dramatic, but I’m not used to not having sex now for almost half a year. The funny thing is, no man that has had sex with me in the past, would ever believe that I’ve gone this long without sex. Since I have never gone this long without it, well since I had my cherry popped.
But watching the episode reminded me of several conversations I’ve had lately with some of my friends. Because although I’m not giving it away, I do seem to wanna tell everyone who will listen that I’m not.But I’m not sure if I’m advertising the fact that I haven’t or advertising the goods at this point.
What happened to those days when I just used to wanna have sex, just because there was nothing on tv?? When in the hell did I need to be inspired to have SEX. But I love it soooo….so how come I don’t really wanna?I mean I’ve had offers, what’s’ wrong with me?
I thought, until I spoke to my friends who are mostly all single and aren’t doing it either. I mean, like they haven’t had sex for almost as long as I haven’t.How in the world is this possible, My friends love sex.
In one conversation with my own personal Stanford Blotch, my extremely fashionable gay friend (because duh every single woman in New York should have one). When I told him I hadn’t had sex in 5 months he quickly replied “not even with yourself?” as his face curled up in disgust. NOPE…at this stage of the game I’m not even turning me on…but I sure enough know what, or shall is say who turned me off…
It would have to do with my last partner.
I am pretty good at compartmentalizing and keeping love and making love far far away from one another.That was until my Mr Bigg. I haven’t had sex like that in forever. It was passionate, and sexual. And he could move me tears just by entering my body. I wouldn’t dream of sharing myself with anyone but him, and we have been broken up for a year now… almost to the date.
So on my birthday I met a man, and after a courtship I reentered the wonderful world of emotionless sex. See but the thing is….although the sex wasn’t bad. He wasn’t him, and although he was, Uhm how shall I say adequate in the love making department.
I was used to explosively mind fucking blowing sex. And although he along with my sock drawer bag of tricks helped me make it through many a night. The sex wasn’t the same. And I could no longer cheat myself.
I think that when a woman has known better in love and sex it is hard for her to just test the waters or just warm the sheets with just anyone. Am I just more selective, harder to arouse? I don’t think that’s it but I do think that I miss the true intimacy that should come along with enjoying a sexual encounter. which was missing with the “birthday guy.”
So here I am almost half a year gone, with my legs closed and not even what my sister likes to call “vaginal inspiration,” in sight what is a girl to do…or better yet if this goes on a little longer…WHO is a girl to do…
Is foregoing “the hook-up” for something more substantial just a sign of sexual maturity? Am I just caught Up on the Ex’s Sex? I really don’t know but I know there is a part of me deep down inside that sure enough wants me to figure it out already (and yes Pun Intended)..
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