I was on the phone with my girl friend and put her on hold to see who was clicking in on my other line. “So T— just called me, “I said.
“What the hell does he want she barked. …Oh I know what he wants. “ she said
We both laugh out loud..
“Well I was kinda bored the other night I said. And you know an idle vagina,” I said
“Yeah that’ll do it,” She said.
Yep but he doesn’t understand that I called him just cause well, who else do I have to do.
He must’ve seen my number pop up on his caller id. Thought he had a shot, but he would have been better off answering the phone when I called him, on my way home, AND A little tipsy from my dinner meeting.
Then the weakness of the moment might’ve allowed for the only thing I really find him useful for SEX.
But that offering he has is borderline at best.
Although it has it’s good moments in the fog of the lemondrops and one white wines too many. He might’ve gotten what he wanted.
Alas he was a day late with his response. 4 hours short to be exact and when I awoke to see his texts and listen to the several voice mails he left me after I purposely ignored his calls through out the day. It really occurred to me. Men don’t like to be treated like “just” sex.
I remember dating a popular recording artist. Who told me he didn’t like that I treated him like a hoe. I laughed because I thought I was treating the situation like the hand had called for. But I think he wanted me, No needed me to want more from the relationship than we both knew he had the ability or even emotional capacity to give me anyway. But why must we pretend. Everybody loves a pretender no body likes the truth.
Idle sex or just doing it because there is nothing good on tv, might seem like a fun way to pass the time on a Friday night but truth be told, you might be sending your partner mixed messages. Chances are one of you might read more into the activity than is intended and you might not actually be getting your needs met.
I have a friend who said she was looking for what she calls a human dill do, and once she got what she really wanted she realized that it wasn’t as fullfilling to her as she first thought. It’s easy sometimes to try to separate yourself and the biological functions of sex with your heart but it’s not always easy to keep the two separated for long.
In the end she wasn’t getting what she wanted from the situation. And she ended up deciding that maybe waiting for a whole man and not just accepting his “member” was a better mood. So IDK for me If I’m bored, I might just read a book or something…
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