Uhm I come from a generation of women who think of Fallacio aka Oral as something to do on special occasions but research has shown that young ladies are putting us old girls to shame.
We now live in “a head as a handshake world,” Where young ladies think of giving oral as a way to preserve their gifts (of virginity). In My research I had one guy say to me that he misses actually cuming on a woman because as he puts it “everybody swallows.”
And while I don’t know these women but hey. In the “Name of Research. ” I had to do a little digging to find out what men like, and what makes Good Head ( oral ) In-fucking Credible.”
As a woman, I figured the best thing for me to do was to give my opinions on the subject and then See what the actual penis carrying men have to say on the subject.
I guess it didn’t hurt that I decided to conduct my “research” at 1:30 in the am when I called these men to ask them, let’s just say they were delighted and confused at the same time, When I asked what I asked them and then hung up the phone.
General consensus is The Best Oral:
“If she really wants to know what works for me she needs to ask Me”
First and Foremost…Everything is subjective
What may work for one may not work for all. So the best and most important tip I would say is to ask your partner. Don’t just go in there thinking you know everything. If you aren’t mature enough to have the conversation you might wanna skip the act. Ok PSA Over..
Wet Wet Wet Or “Sloppy Toppy”
As one man called it seems to be the most enjoyable by most men.
“Well, Yeahhhh,” said my friend ”who like’s dry Head??”
One guy described wanting to be “Drenched in spit.” Although that doesn’t seem to be everyone’s preference when I was watching Karinne Stephine’s video a while back the thing that surprised me about her “technique” Was how much spit the woman produced.
After attending New York City’s popular sex toy shop “Babes in Toyland’s ” seminar on the subject , some suggestions were to Drink Water, before during and definitely after the act; to Help you to lubricate. There are also water based lubs you can use to help you achieve some additional wetness. I guess you would have to find one to your “taste” pun intended.
Attitude Attitude Attitude
One gentleman told me the best oral he’d ever received was to from someone who, and I quote…
“Loved me & Love to give me Head.”
He explained that too many women do it as if they don’t really enjoy to do it and it spoils the mood. One article I read described the philosphy of some women “wanting to just get it over with,” As not sexy. Shit I have definitely been there.
But when she explained that the point of it was to provide your partner with maximum pleasure and doing something that is ultimately pleasing to them. It made me rethink the way I thought about doing “IT”.
We’ve all had bad sex or had sex with one guy that just got “his” and didn’t really care whether we derived pleasure from the sex act. You don’t wanna be one of them do you?
So My suggestion to you if you are going to do it. You should at least like it or don’t do it. On the flip side..I feel that men who ask for it, get whatever we are willing to give. Gentlemen if you have to ask a woman to give you oral generally, she’s just not that into you….
Eyes Have it
Eye Contact is very important because it sets up the mood of the action before and after. Take your time to examine the penis, look at it carefully. There are a few reasons for this. First is obvious, you can examine it while you are looking at it for obvious signs of STDs (BuzzKill). Second if you are in the act a lot of men think it is extremely sexy for a woman to keep and hold his gaze while they are doing it.
Deep Throat
This isn’t for the faint of heart and sho nuff not the easiest thing to try. In a few articles I have come across, suggest the easiest way to do this is to practice practice practice. I remember being at a bridal shower and one of the guest told a story about how she had tried to give her husband oral pleasure, only to end up throwing up on him…I’m sure that got him in the mood. Needless to say you might not wanna try this on a full stomach. Or really even have sex on a full stomach for that matter.
The Trick to this is to try to position yourself at an angle where your mouth and your throat are aligned for easy unimpeded insertion. The Best way I could describe such an angle is to say for example to Lay on your bed with you head hanging off, So that your head is all the way back. The other is to practice your breath control.
“Inhale through the nose on the down stroke and hold your breath for as many up-down strokes as possible and then exhale through the nose on an upstroke.”Courtesy of The penisownershandbook.com
One Tip If you Swallow as you move the member deeper, you will actually move your uvula and allow it to go further. ( that soft tissue that dangles and causes your gag reflex).
Winter Fresh
Let’s face it, sometimes a mouth is not just enough. Your mouth might also need a little help. I have heard that if you use Oraljel in the back of your throat, it will help you to deep throat. I have also heard that if you brush your teeth, or use mouth wash before consummating the act it will provide additional sensation and stimulation for your partner.
Gag me with a…
I have to admit I laughed out loud when One of my interview subjects told me that he liked “ A lot of gagging, even if it’s fake.” But then when my sister posted this on her site yesterday I figured that there might be something to this.
Technique Twist & Shout
That puts that song in a whole nother perspective. But “Hand Movements” was almost as important with men getting the job done than just bobbing your head up and down as if you are bobbing for apples. Of course the easiest method is to suck it as if you are sucking a lollipop or a popsicle. But You should also use hands as well.
According to the website Babeland, “ Grip the cock around the base and slide it up and down, hand-job style, in tandem with your mouth. (Some folks like a tight squeeze, while others may not, so check in.) This is great because you can cover a lot of the shaft this way without worrying about taking the whole cock in your mouth. You can concentrate on the super-sensitive head and suck as hard or softly as you and your partner like.”
Make sure to make full use of your tongue. If you move your tongue in a circular motion around the head of the penis this should cause an incredible sensation. According to “HOW TO SUCK COCK – A 14 LESSON TUTORIAL” there are many techniques you can try from the butterfly Flutter, Traveling figure 8, The Circle or Lolipop Lick. I suggest you go on over there and give it a read..I found it extremely interesting.
Balls need love too..
“But women be too violent” said one gentleman,“you got to be careful with them they’re sensitive.”
Some men love it if you show his balls some attention to. I’ve heard them talk about loving it when a woman can fit the penis and balls in the mouth at the same time. Uhm sounds like a little man comment, but testis are incredibly sensitive.
So gently sucking, licking or even fondleling of a guys testicles can cause increased pleasure, so don’t leave them out of all of the fun.
Finish the Job
I almost called this shut up and just swallow, but palease don’t let me be the one to tell anyone that because I’m a virgin…But I do have some friends who don’t feel like their done if they don’t swallow. “It’s like the cherry on top of the sundae..You not finished without it,” my friend said. This is completely up to you and your partner. Some men think that it is the best thing ever to see you taking a part of his essence into you. But to each his own.
In closing I will use this quote “Just Act toothless,” one guy said. I had to say it though I feel like I’m stating the obvious, men’s sex organs are their most valued possession and should be handled with extreme care. If you aren’t sure about something make sure you ask them.
Some men don’t like a chatty cathy when it comes to a woman giving head I’ve heard, “She should just shut up and do it,” More than once. But one of the most important comments I got from the men was. “She should be willing to learn.” It’s ok to not know everything to ask sometimes is the ultimate sign of wanting to please your mate.
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lol..you covered this very well..I don’t swallow either my friend
lmao off at the video..he was on point..lol