Chivalry Must’nt Die

I had a melt down of sorts and I think it was just out of frustration. I am a lady who usually likes my singledom. I mean I love Dating, getting my hair and make-up done, putting on the right outfit, and some pretty shoes. And getting to know some one new with the prospect of him possibly being the ONE.

And giving him my ass to kiss when I realize that he isn’t (I know it aint right but I have to have at least one flaw).

I love when he pulls out my chair, and opens my car door, and of course pays for the meal and drinks with no problem, because shit I am a woman of a certain age and class I believe that is the very least a man with whom I am to share my time is supposed to do. But I have had a few bad dates lately.   LIKE REALLY BAD.

The first was with a very attractive import exporter (he was kinda short but look who’s talking).  Now my first sign that he was probably gonna be a problem was that he was an Israelite (nothing against their religion although they do believe in multiple wives and male supremacy), Who spent most of the night brow beating me about how I would never find that “LOVE” I was looking for and I should just settle down with A MAN, (Yes Honey Any Man), because at my age the pickings were slim.

Now he is not the only man that has ever given me this speech but what was odd to me was that he was the only one who ever gave me that speech while he was attempting to date me. And on the FIRST DATE? What ever happened to when a man would put forth his best effort on a first date? What happened to the witty conversation and compliments, Non-overtly sexual flirting that I love on a first date? What the Hell was this dude’s angle.

Then I listened to his story of how he was so good, his ex wanted him back, and if I had a dime for every dude that tell me that I would be able to buy that property on star island. What I didn’t hear is was anything that remotely wanted to make me go out with him again.

Then there was the Crazy Face book Stalker, whom I reluctantly met with, that I had to check, and blog about after he left me in a public place for speaking to my male friend, and then proceeded to yell at me. Now to the meltdown, so 3 weeks ago I was out with some friends hey Ticia & Nicky, and I met a very attractive young man, he was into me and I was into him cool, we were out and all of my friends were remarking about how attractive this young man was.

So he’s been calling, and sending me half texts (meaning an opening text and then when I reply no response) so today I was at the end of my rope because I have a very short attention span when it comes to men, I like men who are into me and that’s it. So it was my intention to delete his number.

So on this day he texts me where are you? and I respond with where I was, and asked why what’s up,? got no response. So about 1/2an hour later I text him back Were you doing research or did you wanna know where I was for a reason??

To which he responded I have a smart mouth. Now I don’t know about you, but in my day if you wanted to meet up with a young lady you ASK HER OUT!!!!! So this was kinda pissing me off because I knew he wasn’t asking for no reason, but he wasn’t cluing me on what the reason was.

So maybe after about 3 hours I was thinking about the text and I sent him a smart mouthed text something like you are a lot of work? & he texts right back to ask me what I meant and I told him to give me a call if he really cared. NOW when we had our introductory conversation he told me that he was a relationship guy and that he was looking for a wife….it alllllll sounded good, but I believe about a third of what a dude says and almost none of what he wants me to see, but then about a week after we met he called me and asked me my name and I told him.

And he quickly responded we’ve met before that name is good money, and my response to that was no way, I’ve never seen you before in my life, You are an attractive man I would’ve remembered meeting you, but then he started to describe how we met in detail and it started to come back to me.

So then he said damn why did you stop talking to me? You just forgot you ever met me, You really wasn’t ever gonna speak to me again and I told him that you didn’t make much of an impression on me the first time let’s see how you do the second time around?Damn!  WOW.

Needless to say he was flabbergasted because this dude is FINE like, I don’t see them like made like him, on the streets any more. His body is the equal to how a man would feel about a woman with a fat ass, But here’s the thing.

When he called me tonight I was going to give him a piece of my mind about his sporadic interest in me, and I was more than prepared to delete his number all over again. Because I am a woman used to being treated a certain way.

And I don’t know if it’s me, but some where along the lines men got it twisted that they are the ones to be pursued. That we have to entice them into accepting our love. As If they don’t even need to try to wine and dine us??

But worst than that is that I know that they know better, and they are trying to fool me into believing that they don’t.

Women you have got to put your feet down not just your one foot but both of them and stand up for yourselves. I refuse to keep going out into this world accepting and believing that chivalry is dead that just lets them MOFOs off the hook from having to do what a man is supposed to do. I’m tired of dating men who don’t behave like men, news flash women still want to be treated like women.

The small stuff still counts and to be a gentleman will never go out of fashion. Women have got to remember that we set the tone and if we want to be with a man who will treat us right, we have got to make sure that we carry ourselves like that is the only treatment that we will accept. I believe there are still good men out there No matter what they want us to believe.