Know Your Relationship Title

Know Your Relationship Position

I’m going to break this down in simple terms and give you more insight on these  positions or better yet relationship titles.   It’s Getting Harder and harder to know where we stand  when it comes to relationships today.  But It is important to know which title you have consented to have placed  upon you in your relationship by the way YOUR actions.

And although you may not think of yourself as a “Jump Off” or a “Bottom” If the behavior fits.

We may think we know these terms but the players sometimes changed up the meanings!   Not to mention the fact many women have changed the way we see they view their roles when wearing these titles!   Women once didn’t care about certain “relationship titles” however it seems as if the roles have changed and women are pimps, players, and refused to be faithful just like the guys.

Furthermore, If you don’t like the terms your mate calls you, then you might want to adjust your behavior, or better yet change the way you have trained him to treats you!

So here is the break down and the definitions often lost in translation or neglected to be defined until far too late into the relationship!

#1 or Main

We have heard this our whole life, and know that it means you’re his special and chosen ONE! It means that you’re held above all the others, and that you’re the main concern at the end of the day!

Many men will define this term “Your main girl, not in a serious relationship perhaps but basically she gets the attention first but you still see other people.”

She may or may not have this understanding and many women don’t sign up to be cheated on! However for many being the “MAIN” just means well first not always the only one but just the first one! For many women define it as “That one dude that you can always rely on.”

which makes sense many women use this term discreetly if he’s not Boyfriend he’s just the guy you know that will always be there for you! However in any case this person is the one whose feelings you probably care the most about and will change for!

Reserved

Always after the “Main” your well the backup, just in case person! A woman that a man strings along, so if his attempts to meet a new woman fails or the main acts up, he can call the “reserve.”

The definition many men give this term! However women can be just as blunt about this,A man that a woman is not currently dating, usually either an ex-boyfriend, a former buddy or a one-night stand, that she still keeps in her phone.

This person means something to you but not enough to make #1 at the moment, normally this person would be the “Main” if it wasn’t for one or two minor details, normally these are insurmountable things like well they are really more interested in someone else!  

This position is not a desired one because you are just being used, you might like the person which is why you find yourself being “old reliable” but in the end you aren’t the one they are willing to be with and or make their priority. 

SideChick/Dude

Enough said right, sidelines are just that and hardly ever move up the relationship  ladder! This person is treated pretty bad in most cases. but in some cases the person is a willing participant in the game.  There are many definitions men will give this term, A woman or women that scout out/seek a guy like groupies.   They are always watching him, and dig his style.

Nine times out of ten she knows he’s either taken or in a relationship and doesn’t want the responsibility of the work. So she will settle for what he gives her and what she can take from him!  She might also be in one herself. Although this option doesn’t seem of interest to most people, you would be surprised how many women, this type of situation is just fine with.

Many women call this lady a “Sideline Shorties“ she the one who always interferes with your relationships and your constantly watching out for. It’s been defined as “A home wrecker, other wise known a hoe, a hoe that messes up perfectly good relationships.”  But Another way to look at her is as a clean up woman. 

Many women know this to be the true definition however men can be“Sidelines“too! And often can tell when a woman is unhappy with her “Main Man” and only wants the perks of the deal not anything serious!

  Last Picks

This person is always there, however you have no intentions at all ever making this person special!

This is the one you call when everyone else is busy! This person is devoted hoping that one day you’ll give them a chance!  You normally feel bad for this person and question “Why they don’t know?”

Normally this person is so blinded or thinks they deserve it they just take the abuse! Or defined as “A woman who is down for anything. She is extremely loyal to her mate. She is not scared to defend her man.”

They type of women who thinks he’s just as devoted to her, and many men fall for this too however they dish it out more then they receive this treatment!

Jumpoff

This person only serves one purpose and only gets called when Sex is needed! “Can refer to a man/woman or mistress you have sex with on the side of your regular.” This person doesn’t get calls much outside of the “business” and she or he is open to this at times!

Seeing how they’re not ready for relationships themselves, however many don’t know that it’s strictly physical and the pain from being just a sex buddy is brutal on the heart, it can turn casual to an uncasual situation in an instant and that isn’t a good thing.

Many can’t handle the pain of him stopping by to get some and then leave! Normally this means no cuddle time, talk time, or quality time really just strictly the “business” and he’s out the door! Many women are taking this term over and leaving men on the side of the bed that’s cold!
As long as you are clear with your wants and desires from your mate.  Know your relationship position, and how the other person views you, and most importantly know your offering you should be fine.  Just know that you consent to being treated however you are in the situation.  So make sure that you are getting the best outta the deal.