I love my friends…I really do but sometimes I really have to just shake my head…So my girlfriend called me tonight to tell me that her ex called her to tell her that his ship has come in and that he had some money for her….So I said oh, that’s nice well what kinda money we talking…and she said well who cares…I hope it’s a couple of stacks…. So I asked? Well how do you know? I mean what did he say exactly?
Side note sometimes I’m a little blonde but I really didn’t understand what she was saying…so She said, “he told me he came up on a lick and that he was coming to see me”…(I’ve never heard that saying before). But she explained that this means a lot of money…
So I asked uhm for what and she said to bring me some money…so I then asked her why did she think that…He could’ve been saying that he had some money and he wanted to take you to dinner and she was like that was dumb…and I said why do you say that and she said that she told him to “get’on outta here until he had some money” and I don’t know, I thought that was a little mean.
I mean do you just tell your man don’t come around here anymore until you have some money? Apparently she wasn’t understanding my side and I wasn’t understanding her either… I was trying to get her side and don’t we all love a man who has money, but damn, she knew her man was unemployed when she first started to date him. Is it motivation to say to a man, I need you to help me to keep the lights on or is it belittling…
So I told her since most of my gentleman callers are always employed when I meet them I’ve never had to tell a man that he needed to go and come back with some money. And then she asked me if I had never had to tell a man to give me the goods. And I had to admit that I had but I guess once again I had saw it differently.
To me if a man is a man, and he looks at you as if you are his lady he should want to provide certain things for you, not because you want him to, but in the case that you might need him to. And since most of my male friends are gainfully employed in the event that I might need something it is their job to be there for me. Or be gone. But in a friendship at the bare minimum isn’t that what friends are for?
So I explained to her that for me, if a man has and doesn’t provide, he is self fish and therefore not the type of man for a long term situation. But I have never had to kick a man when he was down. And I met him when he was down.
I don’t know, Have you ever had to tell a man to “Go and come back with some cash?” Do you think my friend was just motivating him? I mean she did tell him to come back when he had some money and heeee’s baaack… so did it work? Am I a little naive? Don’t you think money gets in the way of love?
saying before). But she explained that this means a lot of money…
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