Tonight I went to dinner with an ex. See the thing about this guy was that although he wasn’t my typical wildly successful man, he was among one of the best guys I ever dated. And although he had some financial short comings (he was far from poor), although he is wildly ambitious; It was almost as if he had predicted the end of the relationship from the very beginning. He is one of the sweetest nicest guys I have ever met, he was sweet and attentive, but in the end he couldn’t believe what I saw in him, because he didn’t see it in himself.
What I took away from that situation is that sometimes God gives you reminders, of who you are and how you need to be treated. I had met him at a time, when my confidence was shaken, and I wasn’t sure if I had the strength to try love, but even if I had the character to deserve it, and for the short time we dated he reminded me that not only did I deserve it I should demand it.
I sometimes forget that men are human, and as I sat next to him at dinner being able to finally ask him why he had treated me the way that he did, It dawned on me that he wasn’t the man for me to begin with he was just a place holder for who ever the real man is to be in my life.
Nothing comes without trial and error and although it took me a while to get over the rejection I felt when that relationship ended, I am grateful that for that time he came into my life and reminded me that I was capable of getting the kind of love that I gave out, and I think out of all that came of our situation that was the best gift.
There was a point at dinner when the question was raised about us maybe getting back together, and I was good. I didn’t need another go round to know that he would be better off with someone else. But I wouldn’t change the time we spent.
Have you spent time with an ex to only see that you were better off going through that heartbreak? What is the best lesson you learned from a heartbreak? Have you had an ex that you regretted breaking up with? What is the best way you found to get over an ex? What do you regret about some of your past relationship?
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